1.15.2004
5 days?!
on my way to work, the topic on the buzz was a listener who had asked for some relationship advice. apparently, after a fight, the listener and his wife hadn't spoken for 5 days. he wanted to know if this was normal.
the responses from the djs and callers were varied, but the general consensus was that this behavior was pretty common. many said that they, too, had gone for days and even weeks without speaking to their spouse or significant other.
am i the only one who thinks this is insane? sure, there have been times when i've been involved in an argument and really should have taken a breather before saying or doing something that made me look like an idiot. if further discussion is only going to send things further downhill, then by all means walk away and calm down - better to say nothing than to say something you'll regret.
but 5 days??? that's a hell of a breather.
i firmly believe that the foundation of any successful relationship must be communication. you need to share your perspective and feelings with your partner, and you need to listen carefully to theirs. there are no two people on the planet who can live in total harmony all the time... there will be disagreements, but it is in how we work through those disagreements that we form and shape a true connection. it is in the moments when we compromise and integrate our opinions and attitudes that we create a product that represents the strength of both parties and a deeper understanding of the bonds we share.
rather than refusing to talk with one another, carrying on some juvenile pissing match of who can last the longest without attempting resolution, why not strive to make the more difficult choice and keep the lines of communication open at all times. it will inevitably make your relationship stronger, and you will deal with the issue at hand, rather than waiting until you are either both too angry or too tired from the waiting, that you never fix the problem which brought about the stalemate in the first place.
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